Think of a time when you avoided a conflict and a time when you met one straight on. Compare the two different scenarios. How did you act and how did it feel? 

Write down your own goals and reflect on whether they are an obstacle or oppose those of a colleague. For example, your need to show that you are competent may lead you to always assume the role as secretary in joint meetings, thereby not leaving any space for your colleague to do the same thing. 

Write down three concrete behaviors that illustrate how a colleague makes a positive contribution to the work group. Bring up these examples next time you collaborate.